10 Attractive Qualities in a Guy

I never got around to finish listing 10 things about 10 things so here is another list, a Valentine’s Day edition…

1. Humility
There’s no greater turn off than someone who is arrogant and prideful. For me, humility is being able to take criticism even when it’s not delivered constructively; seeking advice from others when you have no idea; not trying to make yourself out to be more important over someone else; and conversely, a humble attitude doesn’t deny or refuse compliments but rather accepts them with gratitude to the one who paid the compliment but also The One who gave you something to be praised on.

2. Confidence
Perhaps this sounds like I’m contradicting myself but being humble doesn’t mean being self deprecating. Sure, everyone has days when they feel they don’t have anything going for them and would rather spend the day being non-existent. But if a guy were to be constantly putting himself down or criticising himself without making plans on actually improving, or just to get attention – that would be downright annoying and not very fun to be around. I like that a confident guy will happily make conversation with new people, or my friends and family, without the ulterior motive of boasting to hide his insecurities.

3. Good, clean sense of humour
If a guy can have a laugh without it being at someone else’s expense then the less likely they are to bully and belittle others to gain amusement. A clean sense of humour also shows maturity I think…

4. Maturity
Everyone has their moments when they act their shoe size rather than their age, or they laugh at something that a 10 year old would find hilarious – and that’s ok – but in the grand scheme of things, if you’re quickly approaching your 30s, still living at home with your parents, mooching off of them with no plans of setting yourself up for your own future or no real career prospects, then no thanks.

5. Ambition
A dream as simple as starting a family or as big as climbing the Himalayas – as long as there is a dream and a hope for adventures to be had in the future. I’d like a guy who takes the risk to dream and make plans – whatever they may be – for the future. He should be settled and content with life but not settle for a life lived unfulfilled.

6. Fashion Sense
I don’t mean in a chase-the-latest-trend kind of way but rather knowing when to dress up and when to dress down. I like to dress up from time to time and I wouldn’t want my other half at an event to look like a bogan because he can’t bear to put on some pants!

7. Chivalry
Opening/holding the door for me, pulling the chair out for me as I sit at the table or walking me to my door/car may seem old-fashioned but never goes astray. Not that these acts are practical 100% of the time in this day and age but done here and there as a gentlemanly gesture is most appreciated.

8. Honesty
Pretty self explanatory.

9. Sense of Adventure
The willingness to try new things and experience the unknown to an extent. Not getting too stuck in the same habits and becoming too comfortable that you would never give something a go just once!

10. Godliness
It’d be great to find a guy who fulfils ALL 10 criteria but this is probably the most important criterion to meet. Since I am a follower of Jesus, it’s important to me that the man I marry follows Him too. It would be unfair to the both of us if our core beliefs and faith were not the same as we’d have very different expectations of each other and of marriage. I I think Ephesians 5:25-29 describes the ideal husband and touches on many of the qualities that I’ve already listed previously:

For husbands… love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot of wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. And we are members of His body.

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Well Versed

Another great link I stumbled upon in my font researching the other day…

Typographic Verses

An initiative started by Jonathan Ogden (a fantastic creative person and designer in his own right), where people can design and submit their typographic interpretation of a Bible verse in poster format.

When I looked at this website, I felt as though deep down I had been unknowingly searching for this url over the last few years. But finally I was able to set my eyes on a collection of not only great design but also to do with the Bible!! which has become increasingly more important in my walk on this earth as I read it and learn from it.

I’ve grown up in a Christian home and though that might sound like I got a head-start, I don’t think an individual realises the magnitude of God’s love for them until they go and explore that on their own and in their own faith. Going to church and Sunday school became routine in some ways because I had grown up with it and came to think that it was just the ‘good’ thing to do. We’d memorise Bible verses (well, I’d try) and hear stories but it wasn’t until recently that I really made the effort to memorise Scripture in order to claim the promises of God over my life.

I’ve made it my goal this year to write down whatever verse/bit of Scripture that really speaks to me, into my diary filling up every single page with at least one verse. And my diary is a day-to-a-page diary. So basically, every single day I need to be reading something from The Word and writing some of it down. Admittedly, I am a little bit behind on my daily reading but I’ve decided that I won’t skip over any days but just continue from where I left off. I’ve learnt that if you beat yourself up over missing a day, that’s when the devil can put a wedge in and try to stop you reading all together.

And I love this idea of creating typographic posters with the inspiration of the Bible, which I’d like to make an extension of what I’ve started personally. I’d always felt that I wasn’t really making a Godly contribution to the people in this world being surrounded by many friends and family who work in medicine and the health industry (both my parents are nurses!) who are quite literally saving lives in their day-to-day, or at the very least helping to prevent disease and illness, and therefore preserving life. But this initiative has really opened my eyes to what I might be able to do as a graphic designer in terms of adding to God’s Kingdom. I mean, at the moment, my job entails that I basically create advertising and packaging to sell cosmetic products to the masses, encouraging people to look a certain way so that they might feel a certain way. And I suppose I’m not just here to fulfil my job description but to make an impact on the people that I encounter at the office everyday, but I think that as a side project, I could really help bring The Word to life for people who don’t yet know Jesus and don’t really get what life/Christianity is all about.

Anyhow, this entry has become a little bit longer than I first anticipated. I seemed to have waffled on a little about myself and might have taken away from the fact that typographicverses.com is an awesome website!! So I will now leave you with a few of my personal favourites of the posters submitted thus far.

(Please note that each of these images are borrowed from typographicverses.com and are not mine. I have not given proper credit to each individual design but each image links to the their respective pages off typographicverses.com)

Psalm 73

I just read this Psalm written by Asaph – and from my googling, I found him out to be David (and Goliath’s) director of music whom suffered adversity despite being a priest. This Psalm has been one of the first that I’ve read so far that I understood what it was talking about in the first read-through and I gained many revelations throughout.

Surely God is good to Israel,
to those who are pure in heart. 

Firstly, it begins with the statement that God is GOOD to His chosen people (Israel) and more specifically defines His chosen people as those who are pure in heart; those who display pure intentions and motives, and only God knows and can judge the heart. I think this serves as a good reminder to check my own heart and motivations from time to time. To make sure that my actions aren’t backed by intentions of self-gain but to be a blessing to others and to be kind to others because that’s what Jesus would have done.

But as for me, my feet had almost slipped;
I had nearly lost my foothold.
For I envied the arrogant
when I saw prosperity of the wicked.

Being envious or coveting, which is one of the Ten Commandments (that is, not to –  Exodus 20:17), has been something that I often fall into a trap of and most frighteningly without even knowing! When I think of jealousy, I imagine someone literally turning green in his or her face full of envy but I just realized that it doesn’t have to go to that extreme to be considered as coveting in God’s eyes. I think that in your heart, if you envy/covet for your neighbour’s things, you’re saying in your heart to God You don’t bless me with as good things as you bless so and so, and essentially telling God (the creator of the universe) that you can do a better job than He. And being envious or coveting can be one’s downfall, which leads to (spiritual) death.

In verse 4 to 10, Asaph points out that the wicked have no earthly struggles; their lives are seemingly perfect, they are arrogant and prideful and yet people look up to them to be admired. Asaph questions where God is in this situation – how could He let the wicked get away with this?

This is what the wicked are like –
Always carefree, they increase in wealth.
Surely in vain have I kept my heart pure;
in vain have I washed my hands in innocence.
All day long I have been plagued;
I have been punished every morning.

 I’ll admit that I’ve often felt like Asaph. I’ve often thought Surely things could have turned out better for me since ‘I’m a Christian and a good person’. What’s the point if even the wicked get blessings? Why should I then try so hard to be Godly?

 But Asaph then goes on to say…

If I had said, “I will speak thus,”
I would have betrayed your children.
When I tried to understand all this,
it was oppressive to me
till I entered the sanctuary of God;
then I understood their final destiny.

I guess ultimately it is my decision in this situation to either turn away from God or to trust that what He has done for me is in His will and that He has my best interests at heart. Had I spoken out against God, I would have dishonoured other followers of Christ by throwing in the towel and I would have turned others who didn’t yet know God away from following Him as well. And just like Asaph I would find myself trying to reason and understand why such things happen but as Asaph highlights, the human mind trying to rationalize God’s ways becomes oppressive and binding to the person. God’s ways are much higher than man’s and He works in mysterious ways so it isn’t until Asaph enters God’s sanctuary that God reveals to him Why. I don’t think I’ll ever fully understand why crap happens in life but I think that if you were to ask God for wisdom and clarity (with pure intent), He would shed some light on the matter.

Verses 18 and 19: Asaph learns that the final destiny of the wicked has been decided. Because of their prideful ways and refusing to acknowledge God’s goodness in their lives, God basically gives the wicked what they want and leads them down a path and into an unexpected ditch. I guess this is parallel to how a parent might give in to their nagging child so that they learn their lesson the hard way. The wicked will be left with nothing to show, as they had not thought about their eternal fate. And that’s what it comes down to – our eternal fate. I am reminded in this Psalm that there is no point in longing for riches on earth when they do not last; whatever the wicked gain on this earth will perish and be consumed by fire. But for those who cling to God will be blessed in Heaven.

When my heart was grieved
and my spirit embittered,
I was senseless and ignorant;
I was a brute beast before you.
Yet I am always with you;
you hold me by my right hand.
You guide me with your counsel,
and afterward you will take me into glory.

God’s mercy and grace is so evident here. As I confess my wrongdoing, admit to my sin but ask for forgiveness, God will be merciful and gracious and take me by the hand to guide me and give me help in areas where I fall short. Once God and I are finished dealing with those shortcomings, He blesses me and I am transformed bit by bit into a more Christ-like person.

Whom have I in heaven but you?
And earth has nothing I desire besides you.
My flesh and my heart may fail,
but God is the strength of my heart
and my portion forever.

The lesson here is that we may want for many things but we will inevitably find that there is a God-shaped hole in each of us that can only be filled with the presence of God. Our human bodies may fail on earth but God will strengthen our hearts, and it is He that provides and blesses us forever. Let’s not forget what God has already done for us in our lives on earth today for surely He has already blessed us with so much and provided every need. If we get upset over how the wicked prosper and become envious of them, we risk missing seeing God’s goodness in our lives and therefore not being thankful to Him.

Today, I am thankful to God for:
–        providing food everyday
–        a comfortable home
–        parents who take care of me
–        siblings to laugh with
–        awesome friends
–        a delightful part-time job to get me through uni
–        two students to tutor for some extra cash in hand
–        a full-time design job lined up
–        my special someone

Perhaps you can think of a few things to thank God for?

(Read the Message translation)

Happy Easter

I realise that this sentiment is a couple of days late but nonetheless, I hope everyone enjoyed their Easter break. Most of all, I hope that people out there will come to know the significance of Easter if they don’t know already what the true meaning of it is.

I currently work at Baker’s Delight (not for too much longer now!) and have been selling multitudes of hot cross buns since the beginning of March! I’ve had some customers come in and made a passing comment (ahem, complaint) that we shouldn’t even be baking hot cross buns until Good Friday. And other customers who are happy to buy them ahead of time but ‘who won’t have any of this chocolate chip nonsense, just traditional buns please!’ And while I endure these comments with a graceful smile, I just think to myself What does it matter?

Having worked on Bun Day (the day before Good Friday on which we began to only sell hot cross buns in place of our sweet products for the Easter weekend) and greeting everyone with a cheery Happy Easter! I wondered if these two words were enough to tell people how important they were that the Most High humbled himself and the took the burden of our sin upon the cross approximately 1979 years ago!! Without going ahead and Bible-bashing customers over the counter, I wanted them to know that they were so loved, more than they could ever know, that Jesus gave His (perfect and blameless) life for them. Even if they were the only person left in the world, He would still do that for the one person.

“Come now, let us reason together”
says the Lord.
“Though your sins are like scarlet,
they shall be white as snow;
though they are red as crimson,
they shall be like wool.
If you are willing and obedient,
you will eat the best from the land;
but if you resist and rebel,
you will be devoured by the sword.”
For the mouth of the Lord has spoken.
Isaiah 1:18-19 (NIV)

These verses speak so much. Firstly, God is reasonable and just. He is willing to talk it out with us with patience and mercy than to bring His wrath upon us so quickly (because we deserve it). God renews us and cleanses us from our transgressions. We are tainted by sin and yet He is making a way for us to appear pure and clean again. And it only takes two things for us to receive that promise of being renewed; if we are willing in our hearts to receive and if we are obedient to God’s instruction. If so, He promises that we will eat the best from the land. God doesn’t give half-heartedly to those who are loyal to Him. He gives the best. And He wants you to have the best. But of course, if we choose to resist and refuse the gift of His Son and disobey His instructions, we will be consumed and be brought to spiritual death. And lastly, for the mouth of the Lord has spoken, God has given His instruction and His warning, He’s laid His proposition before us so the ball’s in our court now and it is up to us to accept or deny our salvation.

“This day I call heaven and earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live and that you may love the Lord your God, listen to His voice, and hold fast to Him.”
Deuteronomy 30:19-20 (NIV)

Perhaps two better words to have said as a parting statement on Bun Day were these: Choose life.